First Impressions


It takes just a quick glance, maybe three seconds, for someone to evaluate you when you meet for the first time. In this short time, the other person forms an opinion about you based on your appearance, your body language, your demeanor, your mannerisms, and how you are dressed.

With every new encounter, you are evaluated and yet another person’s impression of you is formed. These first impression can be nearly impossible to reverse or undo, making those first encounters extremely important, for they set the tone for the all the relationships that follows.

So, whether they are in your career or social life, it’s important to know how to present yourself.

Be Yourself

Too often we think to make a good impression we need to put on a front. This isn’t the case at all! You can create a good impression without total conformity or losing your individuality. Yes, to make a good first impression you do need to “fit in” to some degree, like wearing appropriate attire for the context of the meeting. However most effective communicators learn to express their individuality appropriately within a given context.

Be Open and Confident

When it comes to making the first impression, body language as well as appearance speaks much louder than words.

Use body language basics to project appropriate confidence and self-assurance. Stand tall, smile, make eye contact. All of this will help you project confidence and encourage both you and the other person to feel at ease.

Almost everyone gets a little nervous when meeting someone for the first time, which can lead to nervous habits. By being aware of your nervous habits, you can try to keep them in check. And controlling a nervous jitter or a nervous laugh will give you confidence and help the other person feel at ease.

Be Positive

Your attitude shows through in everything you do. Project a positive attitude, even in the face of criticism or in the case of nervousness. Strive to learn from your meeting and to contribute appropriately, maintaining an upbeat manner and a smile.

Be Courteous And Attentive

It goes without saying that good manners and polite, attentive and courteous behavior help make a good first impression. In fact, anything less can ruin the one chance you have at making that first impression.

Your new acquaintance deserves 100% of your attention. Anything less and you’ll create a less than good first impression, so don’t get distracted by your phone or surroundings.

First impressions are vital, make them count!

Author: Don Muller